By Robin Chappell 08/15/2019
“When you know you are of worth, you don’t have to raise your voice, you don’t have to become rude, you don’t have to become vulgar; you just are. And you are like the sky is, as the air is, the same way water is wet. It doesn’t have to protest.”
― Maya Angelou
This world can be quite vain at times. We all know that everything is social media and internet news. A life full of memes, tweets, and posts validate everything about us. Our relationship status, our successes, our failures…everyone is trying so hard to reach for fame or maintain it that this world has become EXHAUSTING. It’s quite easy to fall into a hole of doing more than necessary to show who you are.
We have to think about the energy that we burn every single day…where does it go? Where do you contribute it? Is this energy negative or positive? Sometimes we become so comfortable we forget to do a self analysis of ourselves every now and then. All I mostly see from posts are people full of misery and hurt. Claiming that someone wronged them or broke their heart, now they’re single forever or forever just don’t give a fuck anymore. That’s the new wave….the new “trend” everyone seems to be following and working so hard to prove. They live their best lives without caring about anyone’s feelings. Feelings are “ghetto”. It’s better to “self heal” by ignoring everything and everyone. Residing and hiding inside of a shell of your disappointments and your mistakes is the thing to do once you’ve fallen so many times.
Then on the other hand they’ll tell you not to give up on love and that special someone is out there. The tweets and posts I see on a daily are the same cycle of people finding the most perfect quote or tweet to say that sums up our entire lives. We contradict ourselves daily through social media without the understanding that it can sometimes bleed out into your reality.
We’ve become more impatient, our perception of “soul mates” and “relationship goals” are always scattered and misinformed. We feel that guys need this Instagram model in order to be happy or “jump into our DM’s”. Everything has to do with our perception, the things that we see on a daily. We begin to forget the authenticity of moments, cherishing time with loved ones, even the authenticity of ourselves. We must always be sure to remain who we know we are at all times, not for others and what they see in us, but for ourselves.
It may not always be your time to be the topic of discussion or to fall in love. Sometimes we need to go through things and learn a few lessons before being presented with something we may take for granted if we are not yet ready to accept it. My message to you today is to do the minimum sometimes for your peace of mind. Everything doesn’t have to be so extra and show so much proof of what we’ve achieved. But do not live your life based on what you feel others expect of you. Give what you can and never stress yourself just for someone’s validation. Most of the time, those that we think have it together and that we try to impress are worse off than we are. They are just doing a much better job of hiding it.
You can never learn to appreciate what you can have more of if you have not yet appreciated what you have in the present. Slow down sometimes, look around and bask in every blessing that you see. And I’m not talking about materialistic blessings, I mean the important ones. Blessings such as health, peace of mind, and pure love. Live life in appreciation and not in this constant battle to be appreciated for what’s not even real!